Have you ever been in a band? It’s a complex juggle of personalities, skill, nerves, and creativity.
Hello Folks, thanks for dropping by. I’ve been ridiculously busy lately, but in the best way for me: various art projects, which of course also includes grant applications/rehearsals/long-distance driving to gigs/exhaustion/recalibrating.
I’ve written before HERE about my ‘Band Me Up’ project, inspiring local women who always wanted to play music to actually give it a go; finally, our weekly rehearsals culminated in our first performance at a local pub’s [very low-key] Sunday afternoon Open Mic.
It was a process to get there, let me tell you! Seven women, at seven different stages of musical prowess, including our funky bass player who only picked up her guitar three months earlier. She started out on tamborine, tried backing vocals and the drums (but I was very hard to prise off the throne), then finally found her niche.
‘But we’re not ready,’ some of us said.
‘You’ll never be ready, and you’ll never feel good enough,‘ advised one old musician. ‘You just have to do it- you’ll learn so much.’
As a theatre performer anyway, I was super keen to push us all out there, so gently coaxed/prodded/reassured and nagged.
We checked out the Open Mic the previous month, and agreed the crowd was warm, friendly, and supportive. We agreed on two songs, and practiced them over and over, with two singers, two guitarists, keyboards, bass, and me on drums. We agreed to wear black and red, agreed to meet there an hour beforehand, even agreed on who was carpooling with whom… but simply could NOT agree on a name.
Then I read that Ruth Miller, who had inspired me to start this group via her Leicester-based Unglamorous Music Project had just died.
I sat in the rainforest in Australia and cried. She’d known about us over here: someone online had sent her my last blog post about her, and she’d shared it to her networks. This little blog got over 250 views in one day- I was almost viral :). Although we’d never met, she absolutely felt like my mentor, or my ‘punk Mum HERE’ as she was known.
In just two years, she had inspired 12 bands to form in the UK, and the punk scene was taking off again:
‘We write our own music and we’ve got a lot to say about everything we’re angry about. I’ve been enraged for years.’ Alison Dunne – stage name Fish – has formed a punk band at the age of 58 because, as she said: “I’ve got no fucks to give any more about what anyone thinks of me.” The Guardian, Feb 7, 2023
I had imagined going to meet Ruth the next time I was in England… in my wildest dreams, I imagined her band The Verinos touring over here, or our band going to visit hers…
The agreement was unanimous when I proposed we perform as The Ruths for our first time. None of us would be here without her creative influence, from 10,000 miles away (17,000 kilometers).
I introduced the band to the pub crowd, and explained our name choice. Our first song was a cover of Nancy Sinatras ‘These Boots were made for Walking’, speeded up, and we rocked it. Our second song ‘Gloria’ had a few more mistakes, but we still got lots of cheers and calls for more, which felt wonderful.
Next time we hope to do at least one original, and I know that Ruth would approve.
“There is a very limited range of hobbies that are acceptable as an older woman,” said Miller. “If you like music, for example, then you’re expected to join a choir. The genius of punk is that you don’t need to have played an instrument before starting. The main thing is your lyrics,” she added. “Most bands are young, white men aged 19 to 23 and their lyrics are about their experiences. But put together women whose ages range from late 20s to early 70s, and their experience of life, their humour, their anger – these songs are absolutely brilliant.” The Guardian, Feb 7, 2023
Vale Ruth Miller, with gratitude for her musical attitude, G xO