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Published on June 28, 2026
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On turning 60 (wtf), & noticing new love makes me want to blog again

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Hello Folks, thanks for dropping by; it’s been almost exactly a year. How did that happen? We all know how it happens: LIFE being life.

In less than a month, I will be turnning 60. WHAT THE HELL. How did that happen?? We all know how it happens right: LIFE being life!

A visual update: here’s me last week, trying on a possible party outfit for my joint 60th celebration event… but no, that’s not the winning suit. Stay tuned ;~)

So why am I suddenly back here on WordPress? There’s a new form in town called Substack, plus Patreon of course; and with horror I’ve noticed an updated option here which suggests using AI to improve/expand/summarise etc.

THAT IS NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN AT BONE&SILVER.

Quite frankly, I’m back as I’ve recently started rewriting poems and spoken word pieces, because one of my creative muses is Love, and she’s come to visit me again…

This morning, synchronistically, WordPress reminded me of a post I’d written in 2017 about the neuroscience of arguing; it’s pretty good. As in, I impressed myself with my own research and advice when I read it HERE.

So I began to reflect on my latest romantic adventure, valiantly starting again at nearly 60. Will I ever give up? Will true love ever settle with me? How long do I even have left, to enjoy a new authentic connection?

And importantly, how will we fight? The good stuff is always easy/fun/sexy/kind/caring… the disconnection and ruptures not nearly so pleasant.

None of us want to hurt the Other, the object of our desires, yet it’s inevitable. I hope after 30 years together, it feels less dangerous to your bond? But at the beginning, when rose-coloured glasses are firmly in place, a rupture can feel fatally dark and scary.

I have a great somatic therapist, (like the wise Aunty we all need), and she often reminds me that arguments are guaranteed; the focus must be on the repair strategies.

That’s how I feel about the whole bloody world right now! We’re tumbling towards a terribly hot, terribly sad, brutally divided planet… how can we repair?

With nearly 60 years of lived experience, all I can offer is Love.

In gratitude for the Muse, resilience, & the courage to keep going, G xO

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  4. Lynne Henderson Fisher's avatar
    Lynne Henderson Fisher says

    Happy Birthday for 60! I know it passes so fast. I loved falling in love in my mid 20s with current hubby, and sometimes yearn to recapture it. Don’t know if we can do that exactly, but we’re still together. Enjoy your time of love and you’re right about learning how best to argue or resolve differences. Glad you’re back blogging.

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    TomBoy says

    I am enamored with “And importantly, how will we fight?” Healthy conflict is the ABSOLUTE key to anything that has longevity.

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      bone&silver says

      YES! I so love your comment, & I so agree. I learnt shitty conflict from my Mum n Dad bless them… really have to step up my conflict game 🙏🏼 Thank you for reading & engaging

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        TomBoy says

        My parents screamed at each other all the time. I can’t do yelling. I had to breakup with my partner last month due to yelling when we had conflict. I just can’t. I do think I have gotten better with healthy conflict and want to learn more in subsequent relationships.

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          bone&silver says

          That sounds awful, & of course no wonder you don’t like yelling. Good on you for holding to that boundary for yourself & your needs. Good luck with all your future fights with new partners 😬 Thank you for commenting & sharing 🙏🏼

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    acflory says

    Damn…a year? I kind of envy you because it means you’ve been having a good time. 😀 Seriously, it’s great that you have a possible new love in your life. I don’t think we ever stop wanting one; we just stop having the courage to look. Or life happens and suddenly it’s later than we think. Either way, go for it because it’s the things you didn’t do, and regret not doing, that you’ll remember when you really are old and grey. 😀

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      bone&silver says

      Aww thanks L! I always read your posts by the way, WordPress just won’t let me comment? So I know it’s all good w Aaron 👌🏿It’s nice to be back here 🙏🏼 There will be more posts on turning 60 I think… not quite there yet but it is this month 😬🤩

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      • L. Rorschach's avatar
        L. Rorschach says

        You can’t leave a comment??! That’s bizarre but I guess not surprising. WordPress seems to be changing things so there must be a glitch… hopefully i’ts temporary. 😦

        I’m looking forward to readings more of your posts! ❤

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